Our purpose on earth

I guess we all do have our moments of asking our lives' purpose
And I think this story is a timely reminder
Of what we can strive to do
as we go about our daily lives..
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One day, when I was a freshman in high school,
I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school.
His name was Kyle.
It looked like he was carrying all of his books.


I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.' I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.

As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.
They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes.

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives.'

He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!'
There was a big smile on his face.
It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.
I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.
As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before.

He said he had gone to private school before now.
I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.
We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.


He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.
I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my friends
He said yes.
We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again.
I stopped him and said, 'Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!'


He just laughed and handed me half the books.
Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends..
When we were seniors we began to think about college.
Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.


I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem.
He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship..


Kyle was valedictorian of our class.
I teased him all the time about being a nerd.
He had to prepare a speech for graduation.
I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak


Graduation day, I saw Kyle.
He looked great.
He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.
He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.
He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.


Boy, sometimes I was jealous!
Today was one of those days.
I could see that he was nervous about his speech.
So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!'


He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled.
' Thanks,' he said.
As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began


'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years.
Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends...
I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them.


I am going to tell you a story.'
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met.
He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.


He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.


He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.
'Thankfully, I was saved.
My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.'


I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.
I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.


Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.
Never underestimate the power of your actions.
With one small gesture you can change a person's life.
For better or for worse.


God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way.
Look for God in others.
Impact others

marriage of convenience ?

would u do it?

if a gay man approaches you and proposes a marriage of convenience, would you agree to it?

a close gay fren of a lesbian fren of mine brought this up to her lately. they have known each other since primary school days. her mom knows him and treats him like her own son. every since she got together with her current gf, her mom has been questioning her about their r/s -- frens or more than that? and adding in warnings like, "you better not turn lesbian, i'm telling u..." so plans of coming out of the closet had to be shelved. as for her gay fren, his colleagues have been poking their noses into his life and want to know why he's still single. btw, he's also in a stable r/s with a fellow gay man.

when she asked for my opinion, without second thots, i told her to do it! what a rare opportunity, i thot. it's like killing two birds with one stone! first, she appeases her mom and second, she could move out with her gf.

and then, she shared about why she's not so keen about it. she thinks that it's like covering one lie with a pile of more lies. and she feels insecure that way. there are plenty of 'what-ifs' and it's scary.

so, what about you? would you do it? let me hear your views...

BAKING Workshop

Shameless Plug:

S and myself will be joining the Baking Workshop for Charity cum Fund Raising for the Children's Homes. With this, we both will be challenging ourselves, to bake two cakes each, Cheese Cake and Durian Almond Loaf and all the cakes (from all 18 participants) will be given to 3 Homes:

1. Chen Su Lan Methodist Children's Home

2. Canossaville Children's Home

3. Children's Aid Society

How can you give your support:

1. As participant, we need to raise at least SGD100 and all the collected money will be divided among the 3 Homes, depending on how many kids they have. This is where you come in, you may sponsor us and rest assured that whatever amount you pledge to us, we will donate it on your behalf.

2. If you are free on that day, you can join us and give support and encouragement

3. Pray for the participants that they may be able to survive a day in the kitchen and for the kids to have a strong stomach to take the cakes (kidding, ok?).

The amount we may be able to collect and the cakes we will bake is just very little compared to hundreds and thousands of dollars being donated by other people. But i still think the cakes will bring a smile to these little kids, with each cake that is baked for them, esp for them, not just to be bought but to be baked by people who are willing and have never baked a cake before, im sure, it will bring a smile to their hearts as well. Promise, we will answer to the challenge and make the cake as edible as possible.

For those who have donated, we thank you so much, and for those who wants to give their support, we are just an sms/email away.

is LOVE enough?

We've been sharing about relationships in LUSH...and recently, i see a few broken-hearted people in church. It makes me wonder, is LOVE really ain't enough to stay in a relationship?

Love isn't just about the words, "but the meaning behind it". It's not just “you can trust me” but “i'll never make you doubt", not just “take care” but "let me take care of you", not just “I'm sorry” but “i'll never hurt you again", not just “I'm here" but “i'll never leave you" not just “I promise” but “ i'll do it", not just “don't worry" but “i'll never give you reason to worry" and not just “I love you” but “life has no meaning without you".

Maybe... love is enough to make someone stay, its what we do and what we dont do with that love that makes all the difference.

If you think LOVE just ain't enough, then, what is?

JOY List

(NOTE: Got this from an email)

Ask yourself this simple question: What gives you joy?

Write it down.

Big joys. Small joys. Write them all down.

Don’t live passively.

Don’t live your days on autopilot, forever stuck on your routine.

Fill your life with as much happiness as you can.

Live your life deliberately.


“ People cannot give what they don’t have. If you don’t respect yourself, love yourself, and meet your needs for joy, how can you do the same for others?”


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As for myself, here are the simple joys of my life:
1. whenever i see a vacant sofa in starbucks or in any other coffeeshop
2. after watching a feel good movie
3. after the last bite on a chocolate i like
4. when i see a dessert buffet
5. when i see her smile
6. when i reach the top of the mountain and the clouds are below my feet
7. when i hear nice music while sipping coffee in a coffeeshop
8. when i see nice photos
9. when i see books on sale
10. when i wake up in the morning and i dont have any headache
11. when i go out in the morning and it feels like christmas
12. when i hear christmas songs

these are only some...its too many to mention i guess.

how about you?