marriage of convenience ?

would u do it?

if a gay man approaches you and proposes a marriage of convenience, would you agree to it?

a close gay fren of a lesbian fren of mine brought this up to her lately. they have known each other since primary school days. her mom knows him and treats him like her own son. every since she got together with her current gf, her mom has been questioning her about their r/s -- frens or more than that? and adding in warnings like, "you better not turn lesbian, i'm telling u..." so plans of coming out of the closet had to be shelved. as for her gay fren, his colleagues have been poking their noses into his life and want to know why he's still single. btw, he's also in a stable r/s with a fellow gay man.

when she asked for my opinion, without second thots, i told her to do it! what a rare opportunity, i thot. it's like killing two birds with one stone! first, she appeases her mom and second, she could move out with her gf.

and then, she shared about why she's not so keen about it. she thinks that it's like covering one lie with a pile of more lies. and she feels insecure that way. there are plenty of 'what-ifs' and it's scary.

so, what about you? would you do it? let me hear your views...

BAKING Workshop

Shameless Plug:

S and myself will be joining the Baking Workshop for Charity cum Fund Raising for the Children's Homes. With this, we both will be challenging ourselves, to bake two cakes each, Cheese Cake and Durian Almond Loaf and all the cakes (from all 18 participants) will be given to 3 Homes:

1. Chen Su Lan Methodist Children's Home

2. Canossaville Children's Home

3. Children's Aid Society

How can you give your support:

1. As participant, we need to raise at least SGD100 and all the collected money will be divided among the 3 Homes, depending on how many kids they have. This is where you come in, you may sponsor us and rest assured that whatever amount you pledge to us, we will donate it on your behalf.

2. If you are free on that day, you can join us and give support and encouragement

3. Pray for the participants that they may be able to survive a day in the kitchen and for the kids to have a strong stomach to take the cakes (kidding, ok?).

The amount we may be able to collect and the cakes we will bake is just very little compared to hundreds and thousands of dollars being donated by other people. But i still think the cakes will bring a smile to these little kids, with each cake that is baked for them, esp for them, not just to be bought but to be baked by people who are willing and have never baked a cake before, im sure, it will bring a smile to their hearts as well. Promise, we will answer to the challenge and make the cake as edible as possible.

For those who have donated, we thank you so much, and for those who wants to give their support, we are just an sms/email away.

is LOVE enough?

We've been sharing about relationships in LUSH...and recently, i see a few broken-hearted people in church. It makes me wonder, is LOVE really ain't enough to stay in a relationship?

Love isn't just about the words, "but the meaning behind it". It's not just “you can trust me” but “i'll never make you doubt", not just “take care” but "let me take care of you", not just “I'm sorry” but “i'll never hurt you again", not just “I'm here" but “i'll never leave you" not just “I promise” but “ i'll do it", not just “don't worry" but “i'll never give you reason to worry" and not just “I love you” but “life has no meaning without you".

Maybe... love is enough to make someone stay, its what we do and what we dont do with that love that makes all the difference.

If you think LOVE just ain't enough, then, what is?

JOY List

(NOTE: Got this from an email)

Ask yourself this simple question: What gives you joy?

Write it down.

Big joys. Small joys. Write them all down.

Don’t live passively.

Don’t live your days on autopilot, forever stuck on your routine.

Fill your life with as much happiness as you can.

Live your life deliberately.


“ People cannot give what they don’t have. If you don’t respect yourself, love yourself, and meet your needs for joy, how can you do the same for others?”


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As for myself, here are the simple joys of my life:
1. whenever i see a vacant sofa in starbucks or in any other coffeeshop
2. after watching a feel good movie
3. after the last bite on a chocolate i like
4. when i see a dessert buffet
5. when i see her smile
6. when i reach the top of the mountain and the clouds are below my feet
7. when i hear nice music while sipping coffee in a coffeeshop
8. when i see nice photos
9. when i see books on sale
10. when i wake up in the morning and i dont have any headache
11. when i go out in the morning and it feels like christmas
12. when i hear christmas songs

these are only some...its too many to mention i guess.

how about you?

Faith

A sharing from my friend's blog:

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faith. so easy to proclaim that you have it, but so very hard to put it in practice. it is only in times of need when the value of faith is tested. but when you feel so helpless, all you can cling to is faith. because there is nothing else that you can cling on to. faith and hope.

All Christians need faith to fight off the attacks of the enemy. Faith is our shield, one of the pieces of the armor of God listed that we need to put on daily to ward off the darts of the enemy.

Ephesians 6:16
In every battle you will need faith as your shield to stop the fiery arrows aimed at you by Satan.

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And personally, like I had shared with the gals on Tuesday,
Faith is not just wanting something
And believing it will happen
It's when you don't even know where God is
and also still believing that He ll do something
Someday Somehow..
For me, that was my new experience of faith

LIFE

Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
So love the people who treat you right.
Pray and be nice for those who don't.
Believe everything happens for a reason..
If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said life would be easy,
They just promised it would be worth it.

Hmmmm...

I wonder when will others post here...hehe it is starting to look like my personal blog already...

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Anyway, just in case someone out there is reading this site, church will be having a Women's event this coming June 29 at 4-6PM. This is to welcome other women, and to introduce FCC to them. Everyone is welcome, regardless of whether you are straight or not, A-sexual or just a fag hag, regardless of your religion and regardless of the color of your eyes, you are very welcome to join us.

So if you have some free time, please drop by and say hi.