would u do it?
if a gay man approaches you and proposes a marriage of convenience, would you agree to it?
a close gay fren of a lesbian fren of mine brought this up to her lately. they have known each other since primary school days. her mom knows him and treats him like her own son. every since she got together with her current gf, her mom has been questioning her about their r/s -- frens or more than that? and adding in warnings like, "you better not turn lesbian, i'm telling u..." so plans of coming out of the closet had to be shelved. as for her gay fren, his colleagues have been poking their noses into his life and want to know why he's still single. btw, he's also in a stable r/s with a fellow gay man.
when she asked for my opinion, without second thots, i told her to do it! what a rare opportunity, i thot. it's like killing two birds with one stone! first, she appeases her mom and second, she could move out with her gf.
and then, she shared about why she's not so keen about it. she thinks that it's like covering one lie with a pile of more lies. and she feels insecure that way. there are plenty of 'what-ifs' and it's scary.
so, what about you? would you do it? let me hear your views...
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i have always believed in marriage. and for me, its something that must be done out of love and commitment, and not just to appease someone, even if it has to be the mom.
i wonder what their respective partners would feel if your friend decides to marry the gay guy?
ok, lets put it this way, if you are the partner, will you encourage her to get married?
well, apparently, both partners already gave the green light. my fren's partner even encouraged her to do it asap.
wow...really? thats amazing love, i think. ;-)
hmm but for how long will they live a life like that?
wouldnt it be tiring to pretend you are sleeping in one bed whenever the parents would visit?
or to keep both clothes in one room so that they wont suspect anything?
the marriage could stop the 'kaypoh' people from asking them, and for the parents from bugging them to get married, but maybe the next thing they will ask them is when are they going to have the baby...and another baby..and so on and so forth...
people are never pleased... ;-(
if my partner doesn't mind, I would. :)
legally.. they better make sure that there is some kind of protection (though honestly i think there won't be any).. I guess i am for the idea from many points of views.. it's like all win, minimal loss.. but "feeling" wise, I am hesitant.. dunno why! maybe like what ur friend say.. lies upon more lies.. =)
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