We've been sharing about relationships in LUSH...and recently, i see a few broken-hearted people in church. It makes me wonder, is LOVE really ain't enough to stay in a relationship?
Love isn't just about the words, "but the meaning behind it". It's not just “you can trust me” but “i'll never make you doubt", not just “take care” but "let me take care of you", not just “I'm sorry” but “i'll never hurt you again", not just “I'm here" but “i'll never leave you" not just “I promise” but “ i'll do it", not just “don't worry" but “i'll never give you reason to worry" and not just “I love you” but “life has no meaning without you".
Maybe... love is enough to make someone stay, its what we do and what we dont do with that love that makes all the difference.
If you think LOVE just ain't enough, then, what is?
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wah.. can have a lengthy discussion on this. Maybe we should bring it up during CG one day. Maybe we should just dedicate the last CG of the month to talk about issues like that :)
To me, love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship, simply because we are not perfect beings. Love always holds some condition in some way or another, whether someone says they try to love unconditionally. It's too difficult.
we are not talking about some issues like who does the dishes, doing this thing this way / another way.. we are talking about major issues like communication style, conflict management style, the perspective we hold about the deeper things in life.. whilst we can try to compromise, often find it too tiresome.
i feel that if someone says that we must always compromise in a r/s, they either are the very consistently close to God kind, or they have not met someone who is very different from themselves before/they have not been together for more than 10 years though 10 years is enough to keep them sticking to each other if no one else pops up. Sigh. This discussion can go on forever. But yep, I think love alone sometimes is not enough to sustain a r/s in the long run. If not, we can just pick any person we are attracted to, and be with that person right?
this is posted at 112a.m. so pardon the incoherence if any.
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